My #MeToo moment happened too early….

My #MeToo moment came decades too early

My 14 year old sister, Andrea, used to make a small amount of pocket money babysitting.  I did the same thing.  But the men I babysat for drove me home asking me innocent questions about what I was doing in school.  Andrea was driven home by Professor Donald Preziosi, then of Yale University, and he parked and raped her.  He and his wife believe that she seduced him.  She was 14.  He was much older.  Apparently he suffered from “blue balls” because his  wife, Patricia Getz Preziosi, was pregnant with their daughter, Alexandra.  My sister, Andrea, had been baby-sitting for their toddler son, Tarquin Preziosi.

Andrea told her story and was reviled by the people of the Wooster Square neighborhood in New Haven for making moves on the husband of a pregnant woman.  He, evidently, could not help himself.  These 14 year old girls are always in charge of the situation.  My father and mother were going to call the police but Andrea coldly said that she would kill herself if they did.  Furthermore, my parents held out hope that Donald Preziosi would marry Andrea—based on their own feudal fantasy, no doubt.  My father, the chauvinist, believed that Andrea was now a “fallen woman”.  In any event, she did end up killing herself when Preziosi broke up with her.  My father almost immediately died of a fatal stroke (he was 54 years old) and my mother began a painful downward trajectory.  That’s the kind of thing that happens when your 14 year old daughter has been so unwise as to seduce a much older professor.

Professor Donald Preziosi went on to have a successful career.  He has taught at Yale, MIT, Cornell, SUNY/Binghamton, University of York in the UK, and UCLA, where he is a retired emeritus.  He’s received accolades for his pioneering feminist approaches to the history of art.

I knew that my sister, Andrea, now dead, was unlikely to be the only teenager he would rape.  So decades ago  I called the police in New Haven, Ithaca, and Los Angeles.  I was brushed off. Because the girl was dead, they believed that no real crime existed.  The police in New Haven said that since he had moved, they could not do anything.  The police in Ithaca and LA said that since the crime had taken place in New Haven, they could no nothing.  This was a long time ago.

And those liberal professors?  I wrote to every member of the Art History professoriate at UCLA including the Dean and the Chair via email when that became viable.  Only one person bothered to respond, saying simply that “your email has shed light on a mysterious colleague”.

Do you know Donald Preziosi?  Has he been near your daughter?  Right now he lives in Marina Del Rey at the so called “Marina City Club” along with his most recent enabler, Claire Joan Farago, who is actually only 7 years younger than he is.

This is paydirt for a paedophile!  Having a victim who obligingly  kills herself.

I am disgusted by all of those people who aided and abetted that sham doctor, Nasser.  Please remember that pedophiles are not those dirty little guys slinking around alleys.  They often present as people with a Ph.D. from Harvard or an M.D.  They can be parents themselves (waving to Tarquin and Alexandra here).  They can be married (yes, thinking of you, Patricia Getz Preziosi—how much easier to blame the 14 year old babysitter than your husband).   And an entire Department of History of Art Professors—that would be you, Yale, and you, UCLA, can neglect this information.

And Donald Preziosi once whined to me that he did not get tenure at Yale because he had a 14 year old mistress!

See the picture?  Andrea is the one holding the book on the left.  I am the oldest.  And there was another, yet to be born.  It was taken only about 11 years before Donald Preziosi raped her.  Her hair was long and blonde by that point.

And if you doubt me:  It would be an illegal calumny, a slander, for me to post this with so much specific information, wouldn’t it?   The painful deaths in my family have led me to be as scrupulous as possible about the truth.



Author: Gubbinal

Bookish, tea-drinking cat-lady who loves great poetry and music and is in the midst of dying

10 thoughts on “My #MeToo moment happened too early….”

    1. Thank you so much for reading and acknowledging this post. I know it’s a radical swerve for my blog to take, but sometimes I want to get things out there–out of my pent-up heart.


    1. Thank you so very much for reading and acknowledging an atypical blog entry. I appreciate it very much. I think it’s true that for every woman/girl/child who gets her day in court there are many thousands who simply perish, mute and unheard.
      Thank you for your comment.


    1. Thank you so much for your comment. It makes me feel a bit sad to transform my poetry blog into one of mourning and anger. So I deeply appreciate you taking the time to read.


  1. I am glad Andrea’s truth is seeing this light, as hard as it must be for you…

    One of the most tragic aspects of the Nasser trial, which features in Andrea’s story as well, is the reaction of the parents when their daughters told them what happened and the hard time they gave them. So many, including townspeople, blame the girls or don’t believe them. And this sadly is so very historical, as this is what you find all throughout history, girl as the seducer and the man is the victim.

    It may be too late for Andrea, but with your expose, maybe other girls can be saved…..


    1. Thank you so very much, Laurie, for your perceptive response and THANK YOU for taking the time to read and respond. I think that in 2017 it’s quite ridiculous to think of so many people thinking that a 14 year old babysitter could ruin a marriage. And utterly appalling that my parents hoped that the professor would marry her. They are not around to explain themselves.

      I appreciate your thoughts very much.


  2. This is so painful to read, but in no way measures up to the pain your sister felt or even the pain you still feel. I do hope that somehow justice will be done, and that soon; and that all concerned who are still alive will eventually achieve closure — but I know that such pain is never completely banished. What a horrible thing to happen, and how awful that so many lives have been touched by such evil.

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    1. Thank you so much for reading and responding. I hesitated to move outside the realm of poetry, but this is a blog where I follow my impulses. I wish I could more intelligently discuss music and the visual arts.

      Thank you again; I appreciate it deeply.

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